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2021 Goals: A bad habit I'm going to break...

 Dear Friends,

As I said in my 2021 goals post, one bad habit that I want to break is the mindless scrolling on social media. It does nothing for me. It adds no value to my day. It also triggers my anxiety. 

I actually had a draft of this post a few weeks back and it was all about what my plan was to "detox" from social media. Then the strangest thing occurred. An old friend of mine, who lives in the UK, reached out and sent a Christmas Email to my personal email. I naturally responded with a "Thank you and how are you?" reply. After some back and forth via email, we connected on What's App. 

I had mentioned to said friend how I'm trying to step back from Facebook. I wondered if she was on Instagram and she said that she was mostly a lurker herself. She mentioned how she scaled back her Facebook to 30 people! People she actually interacts with and who she wants to know about her life. 

Isn't that something!? 30 people! I've tried to cull out my "Following" and "Followers" list and they are still in the 2 or 1 hundred's. Do I truly "know" that many people? Part of it is trying to support friends and their side hustles, but what does that truly mean? 

So what stops me from really cleaning out my list? Fear. Fear that when it is noticed, it offends. But why should it offend? Does having access to my Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram mean THAT much to others? It's my account. If I look at how many people actually interact with my posts, it's small. It's definitely not in the hundreds! 

So now what? How do I do this? For the most part I've done the following:

  1. I've culled through my list of Following and Followers on all platforms and removed accounts that I tend to ignore and/or not really engage in.
  2. If there is a post that I see that is in direct opposition of my values, then I either unfollow or unfriend. If it is one of the suggestive ads/post, then I select that the post is inappropriate for me.
This is not putting blinders on to thoughts and opinions that are opposite of mine. In truth, it is very easy to see who in my sphere do and do not share my opinions and values without Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter. 

So I guess to continue with this, there are certain questions I need to ask myself:
  1. Who do I actually know among the followers/following in all of my account? Who do I want to interact with? Who do I want to see my posts?
  2. What is the purpose of each of my accounts? What do I want to see when I click on those icons? What do I want to share?
It will be a hard exercise, but I think spending one day to truly look at all of my accounts is what is needed to move forward.

That is all for now. I just need to get this out there.

Bye folks.




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